Managing Stress

For family members and friends who are left behind to deal with things when a loved one is taken into custody and held in jail, it can be a stressful and overwhelming time.

They might be handling a loss of income along with extra financial burdens of court expenses, fines and legal costs, and travel for jail visits. They may also be asked to deposit money into the jail commissary account.

Often their daily routines and schedules are upset, which may result in lost days at work or school. They may have more needs for help with everyday tasks, running errands or caring for children. Children need extra attention, time and care as they adjust to their parent, stepparent or adult family member being in jail and absent from their family.

All of these demands can cause strained relationships and it is common for family members and friends to have a mix of feelings and opinions about the events leading up to, and during the time of, arrest or incarceration.
Common feelings include:
  • Anger
  • Anxiety
  • Betrayal
  • Confusion
  • Despair
  • Disappointment
  • Exhaustion
  • For some, a sense of relief
  • Frustration

  • Guilt
  • Hurt
  • Irritability
  • Loneliness
  • Loss of trust
  • Outrage
  • Sadness
  • Shame
  • Worry
Utilizing Resources
Our goal is to support you so that you have more tools to keep yourself as healthy and strong as possible during and after the time that your loved one is in jail. We invite you to use the helpful resources that are available.